The New Paradigm – Getting into Solution Mode

Each one of us comes with problems of living. There’s a unique scenario with EACH PERSON and this is as it should be. There are upsets. Things are not always as they seem. Suddenly some of you find yourself yanked away from something that was comfortable. Suddenly some of you find issues that never were there before: health, abundance, survival. Some of you have issues with family… 

Our problems are often similar ones which the others have too. What makes the problems unique is that now YOU have them. Perhaps you perceive yourself as an awared individual but just because you know how things work, and who you are, it does not exempt you from some of these things.

The Old Way of Solving Problems

There are many things that people do in order to solve their problem, the list is long but here is a short list of a few of them:

  1. Run– running away from the problem as if they run far enough, it will not be there when they get back…, some occupy their brains with other stuff, others ignore the problem…This category includes many other behaviors, all of them are done because people believe it’ll make them feel better (avoiding pain).
  2. Trying to Get Rid of the problem- trying to get rid of the problem or equally sit down and worry rather than facing the problem directly and solve it.
  3. Blame others, accuse the circumstances and conditions…
  4. Share- There are people with problems in front of them that decide that if they share them with enough people, they will go away! They call all of their friends and they tell them all about it. They tell them about it over and over and over, thinking that perhaps by sharing it over and over, some day it will go away. They feel if they could just get more people involved, the issue might get diluted. They actually don’t want suggestions or solutions. 
  5. Shut Down mode- When all else fail, some people go into crisis of biology – a shut down mode and have this thought “it is better to be sick or die than to face the problem”.

These examples are normal reactions which belong to a traditional or Old way of doing things. Even those who perceive themselves conscious people that are aware of themselves, will have the temptation to go to the old way of solving problems, until they catch themselves in it and move on to what will work more effectively.

Sometimes the answers come in a way that we cannot understand in a linear way of thinking.

“Our problems are often similar ones which the others have too. What makes the problems unique is that now YOU have them”.

How to create win-win solutions in your own life?

What can you do in order to get an elegant win-win solution? Let’s examine that for a moment.

A conscious and enlightened person – the one who knows who they are – the one who is connected to his intuition and inner energy- will do three things, which represent an entirely different paradigm:

    1. Analyze metaphorically WHY the problem exists. This stage is important as this is the key to What’s next. They will look at their problem and say, “Why has this been brought to me? Why is it part of my realm? “why I’m involved in this situation?” They know that there is something for them here and they will stay open and curious. They know that if they face a challenge, that means that they have the capacity to solve it. that the solution is already there, they just didn’t find it yet. They will not ask for the solution, but for PEACE over it. This is very wise…. First must come balance and peace. Next… revelation and complete solution. PEACE over worry is absolutely necessary for a win for all solution! This is very different way of handling problems, as most of us most of the time usually run to solve problems and seek to Do things before being in Peace.

    2. Take RESPONSIBILITY for the problem, regardless of how big it is or what has happened – regardless if it appeared to be an accident or not – they will say “At some level, I own it, and therefore I can solve it.” It is not “something that has happened to them.” There’s no victimization.

    3. EXPECT SYNCHRONICITY. Now this is critical. Gone are the days when things are handed to you and done for you where all you do is sit and say thank you. You’re not going to be able to sit at home and have good things fall upon you anymore. It is the RESPONSIBILITY of the higher self within you that gives you the ABILITY and the gift to STAND UP and make things happen. Nothing is going to happen, until you stand up and push on those doors of life. Make the calls that seemingly never did anything before, and watch the results. Get together with other people and find out what synchronistic things take place to allow for your life to move forward.

    The last item is for you to OWN THE CONCEPT that for every problem, no matter how large, there is a solution that has been created already – one that it is available and that it is grander than you can imagine. It exists with your name on it so you are the only one who can solve it.

    What are you going do with that problem that you’re handling now?

    If you choose not to fully understand the problem that you face, the problem that rests there, will not be dissolved from the root cause. You’ll experience the problem in many various and different ways, over and over, to give you another chance to see through it. So, you’ll always have a chance to solve it… You have the freedom of choice to put it right back where it was. You have full choice and permission to flee from it – worry about it – create drama – even go into shut down mode. All of those things are yours to do. You also have permission to look at it and see it for what it is – something very small in the cosmic theme of things – something which has a solution that you prepared a long time ago. It is often covered metaphorically with tears until you discover it’s gift.

    3 rules of thumb for how to choose your next professional of guided change

    People wish for happiness, freedom, success, love, more money… but too much resistance and obstacles stand in their way to the perfect lives they want. Their patterns of thought and behavior were shaped in such a young age and are rooted so deep, that sometimes only ‘superpowers’ that go beyond their ratio and physical body can help.

    There are many conscious/awareness methods that may help and it’s important to know how to choose the right one for you.

    1- Say no to gurus: Any method that is represented  by a “guru”, a person who the followers depend on or on his absolute direction and thoughts, detracts from the people ability to rely on their self-power. This is a safe receipt for deviation from your happiness path.

    2- No comfort zones- Any method that leads to self-depreciation, is  flawed. As much as it’s inconvenient to step out of the comfort zone and struggle with self beliefs and old patterns, true methods require it as part of the relief and change process. If it’s not challenging, then no change will happen.

    Change is not an act of magic. We wish we could take a pill, go to sleep and wake up in a whole better new reality. But the fact is that before our reality changes, we need to  change from within – rewire our attitude, our thoughts, our feelings. Release patterns of thought that do not serve us and remove the clutter that exists on our path.

    3- No “if-then” scheme of things: Any method that bases its power on intimidation, separation (‘us and them’). That base its strength on rewards and punishment mechanisms (if you don’t do what we told you/What we need/What we expect you to – you’ll be punished/ill/ or equally will not get our support or love. This is wrong. This is a flawed method as there are no punishments for misbehavior, only lessons learned and life experiences that teaches us and calls us to become our better self.

    How to make stress go away?(Come With Clarity)

    “Spacious mind, brightness, lightness are already there. If you practice your awareness daily, not just in stressful moments, your mind is more likely to know how to handle it”.

    Very often when we feel stressed, we tend to project it on other people and things around us. There is something interesting in learning how to master and control the way you react to things outside. Learning to train the mind and be detached when you experience overwhelming emotions is a skill. When you feel frustration, pain, sadness, anger, stress and instead of yelling at someone or going to sleep you just say to yourself- “oh, I’m exercising now anger/frustration/stress.” or- this experience is so frustrating, may sound crazy/weird to some of us but it is an unusual (different) way of thinking from what we are used to.  Reality in many cases is essentially a mirror to our feelings. It shows us what we are feeling, and what we project on others.

    When we sit down and pause, it enforces us to see situations clearly. It forces us to address the situation. The point is not calming the mind. It is more about developing the sense of ease when we bring the mind back and focus on ourselves. When we feel more comfortable with ourselves and the mind sets down, tension decreases. then we are aware of how we are feeling, what is going on in the mind and we can approach life in a healthier way.

    “Gates” to happiness- Balance

    When we have Balance in our mind then contentment comes more easily.

    When we are overwhelmed by emotions or have a tendency to run away with thoughts it’s quite difficult for balance and happiness to rise in the mind. It’s still there but we are not present and we lose the connection with it. That’s the main reason why sometimes we know what we want but it ‘s hard for us to choose it. Let’s say we want to stop eating cakes. We’ve committed to that. But if we are full with overwhelming feelings we lose the connection to this promise and find ourselves eating that cake.

    When the mind is wandering off, when we get distracted, we are not able to be present, make productive thinking and make good choices.

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    Notice what throws you off balance. Is it an external thing? particular situations or people in your life? Or is it internal? particular thoughts? emotional patterns? it could be useful to notice what is is that takes you farther away from this innate sense of happiness.

    Why Self-Care Matters?

    ~”Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt” (Maya Angelou)

    For many people it is a surprise to begin to talk about themselves when we are speaking about generosity. For some it is more difficult to accept than give things. The fact is that if we do not know how to accept we also do not know how to give! And if we think that giving is such a good virtue, why then do we not let others fully experience this joy?

    Giving is an innate quality of our mind. Sometimes we do not see it because other things obscure it. But it is always there. The way the mind acts is that it really does not distinguish if we are generous inside – with ourselves or outside, and share it with others. Sometimes it is natural to think that if it does not come naturally, or if we are not feeling it, so it is not natural. It does not matter much. If we want to create a space for generosity we need to create a path for it. It needs the right conditions to rise.

    Generosity is always there. Sometimes the clouds obscure it, but it is like a blue sky- it is always there. Sometimes our thinking, our judgment mind obscures it.


    Take time to be generous to yourself. do something nice to yourself. Not something big like blowing your money on an expensive vacation… something small that gives you time. space. Even if you do not feel generous, practice it. The clouds do begin to disperse. Generosity is inside us even though we cannot always feel it. It is always present with us. Living with this idea is at itself more than enough.